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Some Important Reasons for Failure of Marriage

Thursday, September 17, 2009



Readers of this post, I would recommend to read my earlier posting 'An Institution Of Marriage' , 'How Can Communication Help In Building a Strong Relationship' and If Marriages are made in heaven, then is Divorce made in Hell ?.These posts you can find under the label My Journey of life.

http://meghanaunleashed.blogspot.com/2009/07/if-marriages-are-made-in-heaven-then-is.html

http://meghanaunleashed.blogspot.com/2009/05/institution-of-marriage.html

http://meghanaunleashed.blogspot.com/2009/05/how-can-communication-help-in-building.html


I would like to recall a famous quote here:

"A great marriage is not when the 'perfect couple' come together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences."

In today’s society we come across couples very often who are not very happy in their married life and sometimes they end up in a divorce. In this post I would like to highlight some of the reasons for the failure in marriage.

• Communication - proper communication is the crux of any good relationship. Only through good communication can we know how and what our partner is feeling. Without open communication between two people we can't possibly know what and to what extent something may be bothering someone.Lack of communication in one of the important reason for an unsuccessful marriage. "Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation."

• The ability to adapt to changes in married life often depends on having realistic expectations about a spouse and the marriage relationship itself. It is common for disillusionment to set in when romantic or other unrealistic expectations are not met. Over time, unmet expectations can generate enough dissatisfaction to make meaningful compromise impossible.

• Many people have a fantasy view of love. Some get married because they feel they have to due to pressure from family or friends. Or they see all of there friends getting married so they feel they should too. So they rush into a marriage prematurely. Others get married because of premarital pregnancy. Couples that are too young and inexperienced who think they are in love will often get married. They may soon realize that they don't truly love this person or they are not mature enough to handle the more difficult relationship problems that may arise in a marriage.

• Couples fail to cope with life’s trials. When painful trials come into the marriage, instead of standing together through them, couples tend to blame each other or think something is wrong with the spouse and the way they handle the pain.

• Work and home schedules are not always compatible. Time spent apart and times spent together are equally important for maintaining a good married relationship. When time is used in a balanced way, it results in opportunities for growth and harmony. A lot of time spent alone without a corresponding period of quality time spent together puts a lot of stress on a marriage.

• In today’s fast world everybody wants to achieve more in less time and effort, which leads to high expectations. Also now the society is becoming more materialistic and in this race for fulfilling materialistic dreams couples end up in conflicts.

13 comments:

Sumita said...

I completely agree with you Meghana...the cases of broken marriages/ marital discords are on an enormous rise these days. Imagine, we are doing a major Astrological research on 'Marital Discord' and you won't believe the number of horoscopes of natives that we come across...there's no dearth of such cases. And the only suggestion that we, as astrologers, give is to have faith in your partner and in God.

I believe that the word 'Ego' should just be buried deep to sustain a marriage...or any relationship, for that matter!

Shankar said...

nice post....

one word does a great magic in relationship.... TRUST...

when this word is lost... there can be no peaceful relationship...

Lakshmi Rajan said...

Nice observations and thoughts , I would also like to add "taking for granted attitude" Many couples take their partners for granted in process hurting relation..

Meghana said...

Yes Shankar ! You are right TRUST is the backbone of any relationship.

Well said Lakshmi,taking a relationship for granted results in a disaster.

Juhi said...

I agree with you, communication the key in making any relationship work...and as Lakshmi says it is important not to take your spouse for granted...I guess one should say give atleast one compliment to your spouse each day(it might be about a very small thing )

Ooglers Googlers said...

Very well said Meghana. Nice thoughts and very true.

Parv Kaushik said...

well written and thoughtful i think good communication can eliminate boundaries!

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Amit Roy said...

Very well written piece. It says so much in so less words. All the best!

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Ravi Matah said...

I fully agree with you Meghana.The cases of broken marriages and marital discords are on the rise. There are various reasons. The possessiveness of the grooms parents as well as that of the parents of the bride is one factor, and continuous interference is another. They may be right in their own way - 'but chalta nahin hai'. Marriage is a highly respected institution and is totally based on trust. Nobody else should be allowed to decide how a couple should live their lives after marriage. If there is Trust - all good things like Love, Affection,Sacrifice, Care and Share, will follow in place.
Both the boy and the girl should be 'pro-active' and not reactive in their approach. Proper communication helps to maintain harmony and brings understanding in 'grahasta-ashram'.
Congrats. A very well written blog.

Ravi Matah

Meghana said...

Yes Sir! I completely agree with you COMMUNICATION is the essence of any relationship!

Thanks for your appreciation!